Not all relationships end in a happy ending, and eventually, we will experience loss in some ways. The period between the romantic bond and that loss is the grieving stage, and that is unavoidable. The extreme sadness and deep sorrow can make us feel weak and vulnerable to several emotional stresses that we sometimes can’t handle.
Why Do We Grieve?
We grieve because we are hurt and sad. We are devastated because of the loss we have especially when someone we dearly love passed away. However, when it comes to a relationship, we grieve because we feel that we’re left behind. We feel emotionally down and empty that we seldom see the positive things around us.
Our expectations often cause us a severe emotional problem that is why we make decisions based on our current situations. We tend to become dependent on our emotions. It can be difficult for us to do things that require positivity because we try to focus on things that make us fragile at that moment.
How Long Does It Take For Us To Grieve?
According to Kevin Stevenson, LMHC, MCAP, “Grieving is a personal and highly individual experience. How you grieve depends on many factors, including your personality and coping style, your life experience, your faith, and the nature of the loss. The grieving process takes time.” –Kevin Stevenson, LMHC, MCAP
Though there’s no specific time as to when we should stop grieving, there is still a negative impact when we continue to prolong the process. Not all grieving periods require immediate recovery, especially if that loss has already affected our sense of purpose that we find ourselves crippled in the idea that we can no longer move on with our lives. Since grieving is a process, we will unquestionably experience a lot of rollercoaster emotions that can affect our perspective on life. Therefore, there’s no exact time when you should be fine because your emotional needs depend on the kind of recovery process you decide to go through.
Is It Possible To Be Not Affected By Grief?
There’s no sense in dealing with your loss when you can’t figure out your situation. The only way to recover from the devastating stage is by acknowledging that you’re only human and you feel pain. When you think that you are not affected by any circumstances, then you’re in denial, and that can cause a more significant problem in the long run. “Grief is a part of life we must embrace. Many people are grieving, feeling alone and overwhelmed. It’s important to remember that tears are like small messengers of unspeakable, indescribable love.” Debbie Augenthaler, LMHC, NCC explains.
How Can I Handle Losing Someone?
“As we process the reality of our loss, we are also trying to survive emotional pain.” Jodi Clarke, MA, LPC/MHSP said. Handle your problem by giving compassion for yourself. Try to follow your feelings and let them all out because the more you try to avoid it, the harder the recovery will become. Losing someone you love is part of your life’s struggle, but that doesn’t mean that everything should end there. You still have to focus on the other things that make you happy. Appreciate life and find your purpose of living because, in this way, you’ll see yourself in a better view.
I know it will be difficult for us to take someone else’s advice because they are not in our shoes and perhaps they haven’t experienced the same struggles we have. However, knowing that someone is willing to listen is enough reason for us to continue serving our life’s purpose. So if the process of grief makes us feel sad and lonely, we have to embrace it and feel the moment of pain because, at some point in the struggle, everything will soon be okay.